A series of essays in the Episcopal Church
101 Brattle St.
Cambridge, MA 02138
April 11, 2004
The Rt. Rev. Tom Shaw
Episcopal Diocese of
Massachusetts
138 Tremont St.
Boston, MA 02111
Dear Tom:
Greetings to you and God’s
peace in this Eastertide. I am writing to let you know where I am in relation
to “gay marriage” and our role as clergy or perhaps, I should say, my role as a
priest.
Like you, dear brother, I’ll
be 59 this summer. As some of the
younger EDS students refer to us, we are now “the elders,” older than their
parents, almost old enough to be their grandparents! How can it be that, just
yesterday, you and I were the youngsters, monk and teacher, recently minted
priests? Indeed, this summer will be
the 30th anniversary of my ordination, along with my ten sisters, to
the priesthood. It is also my last year
in residence on the EDS faculty. In this context, I’ve been mulling prayerfully
over the matter of vocation.
As a child in the 1950s and a
teenager in the 60s, my Christian education was shaped around the Civil Rights
movement and a spiritual intuition, bred through this movement, that God always
calls us to the work of justice. A
decade later, one of the tasks to which God called me was to share the lead in
various related movements for gender and sexual justice in and beyond the church.
Early in these efforts, I came to realize that gay, lesbian, bisexual, and
transgender struggles cannot be understood except as connected with historic
efforts for women’s liberation. I also
realized that these political processes could not be adequately comprehended
apart from the Civil Rights movement, which provided their strategies and, more
importantly, their moral grounding. For many Christians, the Civil Rights
movement also helped us realize the doctrinal grounding for justice work -- summarized beautifully in the words of The
Baptismal Covenant: that we will persevere in resisting evil and whenever we
sin, return to God; that we will proclaim by word and example the Good News of
God in Christ; that we will seek and serve Christ in all persons, loving our
neighbors as ourselves; and that we will strive for justice and peace among all
people, and respect the dignity of every human being.
This is the vocational – and doctrinal
-- context, Tom, in which I find now that I cannot, in good faith, refuse to
solemnize the marriage of lesbian sisters and gay brothers. As a priest of the church a priest of God,
for me to refuse to publicly “sign and seal” what God is doing in the life of
the people would be, I believe, a betrayal not only of my lesbian and gay
sisters and brothers but also of the vows I have taken to be faithful to
God. How can I not, at this critical
juncture, dear Tom, express gratitude to God for Her faithfulness to us and for
Her revolutionary patience with us, we who come around so slowly?
In this matter as in so many,
I have turned not only to friends and colleagues for collaboration and counsel,
but also to a “heavenly council” (Bishop DeWitt, Sue Hiatt, Sister Angela,
among others!). These friends, those with us on the earth and those gone on
before, all warn against making “unity” a goal at the expense of justice. But
the clearest directional signal to me in this matter, Tom, has come from
several couples who have asked me to solemnize their marriages. In one case,
the women have been together for more than 20 years. In each case, they have
spoken of how important it is to them that the church which they have
loved and served, not the state, solemnize their marriage at this particular
moment in our history.
Tom, I’d be glad to discuss
this further with you and to contribute anything that might be helpful to the
diocese as we all struggle to act in faith.
You and I are scheduled to meet in June, but I can be available earlier if
you’d like. In any case, I felt it was important, here and now, to let you know
where I am.
Your sister in the Spirit,
The Rev. Carter Heyward
cc: The Rt. Rev. Roy F. “Bud”
Cederholm
The Rt. Rev. Gayle E. Harris
The Rt. Rev. Steven Charleston
The Rt. Rev. Bennett J. Sims
The Most Rev. Rowan
Williams
The Most Rev. Frank Griswold
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